Just Get Away

I remember being hesitant when I read the email from my auntie asking me if I wanted to go in on a little beach house for a “girls only” weekend getaway.  My mind flooded with every reason why I couldn’t and shouldn’t go.  Who would take care of the day to day stuff around the house?  How was my husband going to handle being the only parent for 48 entire hours?  Who was going to do the dishes and wash the clothes?  Would he remember to give the animals their medicine?  I suddenly envisioned my daughter jumping up and down on the couches at 10 o’clock at night and eating ice cream all weekend…..and then it hit me.   I should be the one jumping on couches somewhere into the night and eating ice cream all weekend.   I needed to not be responsible.  I needed to not have to cook a meal, or wash a dish, or do the laundry.  I needed to be me, and not a mother, or a wife for two whole days.

We made it happen and three weeks later I was heading down to a cottage in Old Lyme, CT.  There was a short lived twinge of guilt as I backed out of my driveway leaving my not so enthused husband and daughter behind.  I had to chant to myself over and over, “You deserve this.  You deserve this.  You deserve this,” and after about thirty seconds, I embraced the mantra and really believed it.  The guilt was gone and I was determined to savor the next 48 hours of some uninterrupted me time.

As I pulled up to the cottage, I couldn’t help but smile when I saw one of my aunties come out.  It is such an incredible feeling to see someone you love so much so excited to see you too…someone that truly gets you and what you are going through on a day to day basis.  We are all moms, so the first words out of her mouth were, “forget your husband, forget your job and the kids…….this is our weekend.  It is about us and not doing anything for anyone.”

Done” I said.

And so it began.   We played games, drank wine, and shared stories about each other…….we laughed so hard that we cried, and we cried so hard that we laughed and decided we were not going to wait seven years to do this again.

There will always be laundry to do, and dishes to clean, but life is too short to live it and not love it.  You just need to get away.

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6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Sarah
    May 06, 2012 @ 14:17:09

    Angela – so glad you were able to do this. I haven’t done it in a very long time. I used to take the “Mommy free” days where I wasn’t a mom for a day. I did this when I worked full time so I purposely had to schedule the time off. I would just do lunch and shopping with a friend but I looked forward to those days. So glad you got away. Make it a semi-annual thing and put it on the calendar before you leave. The months and years go by much too quickly.

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  2. Angela
    May 06, 2012 @ 14:24:01

    Thanks. We all need to do it! It’s very rejuvinating!

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  3. Ali Southworth
    May 07, 2012 @ 02:38:38

    What a beautiful story…and so very inspiring! Thanks Angela for sharing!

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  4. amourningmom
    Aug 05, 2012 @ 04:03:35

    Sounds fun – so glad that you went! I hope you get to go again next year (or sooner).

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