Give Into the Feeling

This past weekend, my sister and I went to a workshop given by Andy Dooley called, “Vibration Activation.”  It was about the law of attraction and how to get what you want out of life by using certain techniques to sort of re-train your thought processes.   One particular exercise we did was to tell our story, because we all have one, and to take that story, that is filled with pain, fear and uncertainty, and change it.  Andy’s goal was to help us create a new belief, to put us in a better feeling place, which ultimately would help us overcome whatever obstacle that was holding us back from getting us what we wanted.

When asking for volunteers, a man by the name of Mike came up on stage to share his story. He was in real estate, trying to make it, but not really being able to, while having an amazing and beautiful daughter, who was only 16 months old, and a wife, who was soon to be his ex on his plate.  He exposed his fears of not being a good father, or having enough money to provide, piece by piece to all two hundred of us audience members.  With each layer he exposed, my heart ached for him.  You could tell he was trying very hard not to cry while he told his story.  As he spoke, my inner voice whispered, “go up and hug him”.  It would’ve been easy enough because I was sitting in the front row, but I had this other voice telling me  he was a stranger and after all, why would I get up and hug a strange man on a stage in front of almost two hundred people?

I still though, couldn’t get it out of my mind that I needed to get up and go hug this man.  I too have a daughter, and can’t fathom the thought of going from seeing her everyday, to just certain days, or weekends.  I literally felt his pain and my own eyes began to tear.

When Mike was affirming back to Andy his new thought process, “that’s right, I have the most beautiful daughter in the universe,” he began to break down in a controlled sort of fashion.  It was the kind of cry where you really had no control, but tried to control it, yet there was no stopping it.  And as tears streamed down his face, as casually as he could let them, my insides turned outside.  My whisper turned into a scream and in my head it shouted, “GET UP AND GO HUG THIS MAN!”  It was like an itch that I HAD to scratch.

And so I did.  Without hesitation, I went up on the stage and opened my arms.  I hugged him with all of my might and I cried with him.  I was truly in the moment and had never experienced anything like it before.  He thanked me for the hug and I told him this wasn’t his forever, it was just his today.  I went back to my seat feeling a sense of peace like no other. I doubt that Mike knows it, but he was the one who actually gave ME a gift yesterday.  He helped me overcome my own fear of worrying about what other people would think when I gave him that hug.

I believe that life is too short to let moments pass us by like that.  Had I not hugged him, I would’ve wished I did for the rest of my life.  So thank you Andy Dooley for motivating me yesterday and teaching me that at any given moment, I can start a new belief, and let go of the old.  A new vibration is all we need to take us out of our comfort zones, and as you may already know, that my friend, is where the magic happens.  XOXOXOXO

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Placing Your Order

Lisa Nichols, a motivational speaker who was featured in one of my favorite movies, The Secret, said something on Oprah that profoundly changed me.  And for those of you who don’t know, The Secret is a movie about the Law of Attraction.  It is not just about understanding how the law works, but the movie explains how we bring about what we think about all the time.

There was an audience member who had asked the panel of cast members to explain better how it worked, and this was Lisa’s response;

If you were at a restaurant, and you placed an order, you would fully expect it to come to you that way.  That’s how the universe works.  You are putting out orders, consciously and unconsciously, and you expect it to come back.  So if you say “I’ll never have a great relationship,” then you just placed an order.  If you said, “Oh, I have the craziest family full of DRAMA,” then you just placed an order.  So look at it as you just placed an order at a restaurant and what do you want to come?

I think about that comment every single day, especially when I post something on Facebook.   I’m consciously asking myself if what I am writing is what I want to be ordering up.   And while I want to bitch about the person who’s yelling at the 17-year-old behind the register at McDonald’s for screwing up her order I don’t.  No buts about it.  I do not want more people bitching at other people showing up in my life. Instead, I want to share how grateful I am for the crossing guard named George who gave me flower roots to plant in my garden, and my friend Kate who showed up on my birthday this year to give me a bottle of my favorite red wine.  I want more sticky face smiles and kisses from my daughter, and a husband who will dance to shake off a bad mood.

So the next time your about to complain, think of Lisa Nichols, and order yourself something that you will WANT to come back to you, because like a boomerang, it ALWAYS does.